Oakland, Ca-The best gift to give for the holiday-Spiritual Development, Eastbay, Ca

“Sure sign of spiritual growth: You want more freedom and less stuff” Lisa Villa Prosen

The holidays are a tricky time for many people, especially for those that find buying more stuff unfulfilling. For many it feels more, and more soul-sucking to be apart of the consumer society. More and more are finding cherished time and experiences are what they crave. Plus, the world is being filled up more and more with stuff. I heard an NPR interview recently that stated 90% of all garages are just recepticles for stuff, filled to the brim.

Most people can hardly remember gifts they got when they we’re younger. However, most can recount powerful, positive emotional experiences like they were yesterday. Relationships and experiences of togetherness and love are the true gifts we give each other, because connection and contribution are basic human needs.

One of the best gifts that you can give this year is quality time. Definition of Quality Time – time that you spend with someone, giving them your full attention because you value the relationship –  Cambridge Dictionary

How to give people you care about quaility time:

  • Put down the technology. Unplug.
  • Get involved with their hobbies.
  • Read a book together.
  • Plan a picnic, even if it’s in your living room.
  • Write them a love letter.
  • Sit facing each other and look into each other’s eyes for 5 minutes.

This is especially important for parents to prioritize time with their kids. Here’s a lovely poem to drive the point home:

“If I had my child to raise all over again,
I’d build self-esteem first, and the house later.
I’d finger-paint more, and point the finger less.
I would do less correcting and more connecting.
I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.
I’d take more hikes and fly more kites.
I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.
I’d do more hugging and less tugging.” ~Diane Loomans

Where does spiritual development fit in? Spiritual growth and development will do more for your personal fulfillment, because it will help you expand out to gain a greater perspective. You’ll begin to connect with what really matters. This isn’t about religion, it’s about connecting to humanity’s greater purpose. We can all remember at least one person we had a loving connection with, that really heard us and what a gift that truly was to be seen and valued.

Skip the stuff and make loving memories together. Remember the old saying, “You can’t take it with you.”

Wishing you the best holiday season. Warmly, Lorie